'I don't understand why she can't just wear a blanket': Woman won't let boyfriend turn on AC even though the apartment is 80 degrees, storms out of the room

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JR Atkinson • Writer and Editor
Apr 22, 2025 10:00 PM EDT

Everyone has a different sense of internal temperature. Some of us run hot, some of us run cold, and a lot of us run somewhere in between. But it seems that the people who run hot and the people who run cold always manage to find each other, fall in love, and start a home together. I guess it's part of the old axiom, "opposites attract." This doesn't always make it easy to live together. 

You might have arguments over the thermostat, and both of you might end up slightly uncomfortable. One of you will be a little bit chilly and one of you will be a little bit hot forever and ever until the end. These are the sacrifices you make when you love someone. This doesn't mean it's always easy, though, to survive the day-to-day. Temperature is a huge part of comfort in the home and it's mighty hard to ignore. 

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    AITA My girlfriend doesn't want me to run the A/C because she's cold but it's 80 degrees in the house

    We were eating dinner in our bedroom and I turned on the A/C unit and while I was eating I noticed it wasn't on and I didn't realize she'd turned it off and I asked her if it just went off by itself and she said no I turned it off I'm cold. Our main thermostat says it's
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  • That's the sticky situation this couple found themselves in when they had a major disagreement over the temperature in their apartment. But the boyfriend clearly thought he was in the right and ended up offending his girlfriend, so he sought the help of the internet. Read on to see what they said.

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    80 degrees in our house. Were eating hot bowls of spaghetti on top of that and when she told me that I just laughed a little bit and went back to eating my food and she grabbed all of her primary items, phone, food etc and went to the guest bedroom to eat and turned the a/c on when she left. I
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    don't understand why she can't just wear a blanket I bought her a blanket jacket and I also don't know why she has to be so quick to blow up over little things I was literally just going to try to get over it but because my reaction wasn't what she wanted she straight up
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    left the room. She is really skinny so I understand if she's colder than me but still I don't see how it's reasonable for her to act like that instead of just wearing the blanket jacket I bought her. I don't think it's reasonable for me to strip down n ked to combat the heat and just sit here eating like that.
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    Commenters weighed in with their opinions on this temperature debacle.

    • Hey_McFly_18 13h ago So when I get too hot I get overwhelmed and irritated easily. I'm the one that gets hot easy and my SO gets cold. I tell him put on more clothes. I can only take so many off. I get compromising of course, but 80 in the house? I'd be raging. She definitely could have handled that better than walking off like that. How would she feel if the roles were reversed?
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    Eu….. • • 13h ago Edited 13h ago If it's truly 80 degrees inside, NTA for turning the AC on. But I have questions: why are you eating meals in your bedrooms, rather than the kitchen or dining room? And could she have a metabolic issue or other health issue that keeps her so cold?
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    And could she possibly dislike the blanket jacket you bought and just prefer to be in a warmer temp with fewer clothes on? In any case, NTA. But get to the bottom of the issue. You two should be able to compromise.
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    SpaceCadet6666 OP 13h ago • We both just prefer to eat in the bed and watch tv. Yeah she does have some sort of stomach issue I don't know exactly what it is called but it's hard for her to eat and she said she'd taken something for it before and showed me pictures of her at a healthier weight when she was but basically what I'm saying is as far as I know yeah she's not physically at her best and I do think that's causing her to be colder than me. I was mainly
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    thinking because she has less body fat that she wouldn't hold in as much heat as me. She does wear the jacket a lot mostly in the morning but yea I guess she would just prefer not to have to wear it at the moment but I still feel like that's easier for her then for me to strip n ked and eat with everything hanging out lol. I wasn't going to say anything to her about the ac being off I just chuckled my main thing was her leaving the room abruptly just because she didn't like my reaction
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    EscapeFromDemo... 13h ago The general rule in our house is that if it's hot for one person, the AC goes on. The other person, if they are cold, puts on more clothes. It is far easier to get warm by adding clothes, than to strip n ked and still be hot.
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    EffableFornent 13h ago • Nta, but she might need her thyroid checked or something.
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    CreativeMusic5121 • 13h ago 80 in the house is unreasonable so NTA for that. She can put on a sweater. I'm baffled why y'all are eating dinner in the bedroom, then she goes to another bedroom to finish eating. Don't you have a kitchen, dining room, living room?
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    th... 13h ago Edited 13h ago Just FYI for many people, blankets keep them warm, but do little to actually warm them up. My feet, or hands, etc will feel icy (to me, and to others who touch them) for hours under thick blankets and flannel sheets. I need to actually have something external warm them, then blankets/socks/sweaters will keep me warm.
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    There is nothing medically wrong, I just don't well in cold. I am perfectly comfortable during heat waves tho. Different strokes for different folks.
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    It does seem your gf is quick to overreact, but please try to have some sympathy that feeling freezing is just as uncomfortable as being hot, you aren't more worthy of a temp you prefer. You both. deserve comfort equally and need to find a way to get there.
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    RB1327 14h ago NTA. 80° is already too hot in the house in general. She's an a hole for turning off the AC and childish for that behaviour when you objected.
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    justlemmeread . 13h ago Listen. I'm anemic and have spent my entire life cold all the time. My hands and feet are like ice cubes. It s ks but I realize that I am the problem there, and everyone around me finds 80 degrees unbearable for good reason. I
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    wear hoodies as needed and socks if I'm really feeling froggy. It's easy to layer up, there are only so many layers you can take off. Your gf is not only being unreasonable about the temperature but she's being ridiculous with her attitude about it too. You're NTA for not wanting it to be 80 degrees and for being surprised that she would shut the AC off at a temperature like that.
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    DarkSkyStarDance • 13h ago Laughs in Australian! It's 26c today and beautiful, our aircon is usually set to 23 to get it down to 26 in summer. ESH for both refusing to compromise.
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    bullishonsolana • 14h ago NTA 80 degrees is quite hot, i don't think it's unreasonable to turn the AC on at that temperature!
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    Strange-Broccoli-... 13h ago NTA, softly. I'm one of the cold-all-the-time people. If I sit still, I can get cold even when it's a pleasant 82F indoors. It's probably my anemia, or lousy circulation, but putting cold feet in thick socks leads to ...cold feet in thick socks.
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    I do try not to annoy my exceptionally warm blooded. spouse with thermostat wars, and will try hot tea or jumping jacks or something energetic when it's really uncomfortable. I understand that there's no respite from the ambient temperature of the house when it's unpleasantly warm for him.
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    But I do have to note - eating in a thick jacket with sleeves is annoying and messy, if it's. the blanket-y sort I'm thinking of. And it's depressing to be laughed at when you're cold. An electric throw for her side of the bed, maybe? Those glove/boot warmers for outdoor sports, maybe? Something that is confined to her immediate space, perhaps?
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    Patricio_Guapo · 13h ago . I don't think you're an a-h e, but I would quite happily never set my AC above 80°. I generally find the entire world is over-air conditoned. 80° is a lovely temperature.
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    . notrightmeowthx • 12h ago She was upset because you blatantly disregarded her comfort for your own. The solution is to find an actual solution that works for both of you. Welcome to having an adult relationship. ESH.
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